Why Chastity?

In church yesterday, we had the greatest lesson on the Law of Chastity! It's difficult to try an sum up something so important and powerful in my own words but I'll sure try! My intent, however, isn't to summarize the commandment itself but rather to share some of the new thoughts I had about it.

1. The breaking of the Law of Chastity has consequences both before and after marriage.
I think too often we fail to remember the effects of our decisions to disobey God's commandments. When we break the law of chastity, we naturally begin to view others differently. We begin seeing others as objects of lust rather than pure and holy sons and daughters of God. The sacredness of relationships that should only be had after marriage is defiled.

The consequences, however, aren't all negative! We are blessed with greater trust in our relationships. We experience and feel a greater measure of the Spirit because we are pure and clean. We allow ourselves to give fully to our spouse (or future spouse)! We will find joy :)

2. The breaking of Law of Chastity is one of the most serious sins!
This is made pretty clear by Alma in Alma 39:3-5:
And this is not all, my son. Thou didst do that which was grievous unto me; for thou didst forske the ministry, and did go over into the land of Siron among the borders of the Lamanites, after the harlot Isabel. Yeah, she did steal away the hearts of many; but this was no excuse for thee, my son. Thou shouldst have tended to the ministry wherewith thou was entrusted. Know ye not, my son, that these things are an abomination in the sight of the Lord; yea, most abominable above all sins save it be the shedding of innocent blood or denying the Holy Ghost?

Elder Holland, reiterates how serious the violation of this commandment is in his talk "Of Souls, Symbols, and Sacraments:"

So partly in answer to why such seriousness, we answer that one toying with the God-given--and satanically coveted--body of another, toys with the very soul of that individual, toys with the central purpose and product of life, "the very key" to life, as Elder Boyd K. Packer once called it. In trivializing the soul of another (please include the word body there), we trivialize the Atonement that saved that soul and guaranteed its continued existence. And when one toys with the Son of Righteousness, the Day Star himself, one toys with white heat and a flame hotter and holier than the noonday sun. You cannot do so and not be burned. You cannot with impunity "crucify Christ afresh" (see Hebrews 6:6). Exploitation of the body (please include the word soul there) is, in the last analysis, an exploitation of him who is the Light and the Life of the world.

3. Keeping the Law of Chastity is essential to our eternal progression.
One of the members of the stake presidency noted 3 main things we learn by keeping this commandment: respect, selflessness, and self-control. These qualities are essential in fulfilling our potential as children of God to become like him! He perfectly demonstrates these qualities and has given us this law because he loves us and wants us to progress and inherit eternal joy.

The reasons for keeping the law of chastity are endless. It is of serious importance.

In 1972, Harold B Lee taught that "Satan's greatest threat today is to destroy the family and to make a mockery of the law of chastity and the sanctity of the marriage covenant." I believe this counsel still applies because of the eternal nature and importance of the law of chastity.

An important point to remember is that the Savior has already suffered for our sins! We can repent! We can be forgiven! We can be clean! I know this to be true! He has provided a way for us to overcome our sins, habits, guilt, shame, and all other negative things!

May we all seek to more fully keep this sacred law!

To My Audience

More than anything else I know, I know the gospel of Jesus Christ as taught by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints to be true. I know that there are great blessings available to those who seek to live by and follow these teachings!

This blog is intended for other members of the Church to read. We have made covenants and promises with God to live a certain way. My posts are aimed at inspiring and encouraging you to do so!

Because this is the premise of this blog, I speak in a way that may not make sense to those who are less familiar with the Church and its teachings. I am, however, happy to answer any questions about the Church and gospel of Jesus Christ via email at kirkfperry@gmail.com. There are also other websites with more basic information such as mormon.org and lds.org.

SO, to my intended audience:

May this blog give you faith as I share both personal experiences and my feelings about the teachings of the gospel. Its my hope that you'll take the time to read these posts and feel an increase of your faith in Christ and commitment to live by His teachings.

After the Trial of your Faith

Wow. This summer has certainly been a surprise to me. I naively thought that coming home from a mission was going to be a cake walk; as if the Lord somehow owed it to me for serving a mission. (I'd forgotten King Benjamin's words: "Are we not all beggars?" Mosiah 4:19)

The big trial of this summer has been the job hunt. I lost my first job, the second didn't work out the way I'd hoped, and the third was only temporary because of its hours. Let's not mention the countless applications I filled out and the numerous interviews I had. Time after time I got my hopes up and was let down after not receiving the position I'd applied for.

And now FINALLY I've gotten a job at the Education in Zion gallery at the JFSB on BYU campus and couldn't be happier. The hours, pay, longevity, and environment are all ideal. What a tremendous blessing!

I think all of our trials are this way though. Is the night not darkest just before the sunrise? Don't we need the character building that comes through disappointment, grief, and pain? Do not these things turn our hearts to the Lord?

I must admit, there have been plenty of times I've doubted. I've had times where I've wondered why I haven't received certain blessings when I've tried so hard to be faithful.

Sometimes we just need to wait.

To those of you who are in the midst of your own trials: ENDURE ENDURE ENDURE. The blessings will ALWAYS follow after the trial of your faith.

 

Modest is Hottest

Yes, this is a corney phrase and doesn't quite capture the seriousness of this topic.

Ah... modesty....

Any of you who went through the Young Women's program have talked about this countless times,

but I want to give a guy's perspective to modesty!

How modest a girl dresses tells a lot about her level of spirituality and conversion to the gospel of Jesus Christ! The second I see a girl dressed immodestly, I know that there's something that she doesn't completely understand:

1. She doesn't understand her divine worth as a daughter of God. She is seeking the praise and attention of man rather than the praise and attention of her Heavenly Father.

2. She doesn't understand (or appreciate) the Atonement of Jesus Christ. If she did, and if she recognized that Christ suffered for her lack of clothing, she'd repent and dress modestly!

3. She doesn't understand the principle that her body is a temple. She forgets that it is a gift with a commandment to dress it and use it appropriately. She fails to remember that she will be held accountable for what she does with/to her body.

4. She doesn't understand the effect this has on other boys. Particularly her brothers!
This is where I want to give some attention:

These are my sisters! I love them and they are an incredible example to me! How grateful I am that they've always dressed so modestly. As a boy, my views of girls are filtered by the things I've perceived about my mom and sisters. Even at home, my sisters dressed modestly! Rather than short shorts, they wore pajama pants. Rather than tank tops, they wore t-shirts. They were ALWAYS modest!

I've imagined what it would've been like if they were immodest. I likely would've viewed this as normal and in turn viewed other, immodest girls, as normal. I would have been desensitized and seen women differently.

Because of their modesty, however, I appreciate it! I find myself sensitive to girls that dress immodestly and am quickly disinterested.

I said earlier that immodest girls don't understand the points above. Its one thing to know something and another thing to understand  it.

President Boyd K Packer taught that "true doctrine, understood, changes attitudes and behavior..." If these points were truly understood you'd dress modestly.

Thank you to all you wonderful women who DO dress modestly! Continue being the wonderful example that you are and always know how pleased your Heavenly Father is with you!

(Note that I often use the word "girl" when referring to immodesty and "woman" when referring to modesty. Your level of modesty is a direct reflection of your maturity.)

Seeking to inspire change,

Kirk

Tips for Temple Attendance

Courtesy of Kevin Miller Photography

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Now many of us are familiar with the old primary song, "I Love to See the Temple!"

But do we love going to it as much as we like looking at it??

Let's consider some of the keys to temple attendance:

1. Go OFTEN!

How often will be different for all of us. Some of us live significantly closer to a temple than do others. Some of us are much busier with school, work, or family activities. As we set goals to go on a regular basis, however, we will be more likely to go frequently.

Prior to my mission, I was encouraged by my Stake President to go 2-3 times weekly as preparation. What this meant was that I went about 35 times before leaving for Philadelphia! What a rich experience this was! The frequency of my visits brought a Spirit into my life that helped me to more fully remember the Savior and strive consistently to follow Him. This was something that I greatly missed for two years.

Upon returning home, this same Stake President challenged me to go DAILY for the first two weeks I was home! 12 times in 14 days! How grateful I am for this challenge! The temple is truly the Lord's house and His presence is readily felt there!

2. Spiritually Prepare

This too will be different for different people. What I try to do is go to the temple with questions. Sometimes I'm seeking answers to personal questions/problems. Sometimes I'm looking for doctrinal insight and deeper meaning of particular scriptures etc. Rarely do I leave without answers! Its incredible! Take the time to sit and wait! Don't schedule activities so soon afterwards that you're needing to rush out. Block out some time to stay!

Other ways to spiritually prepare could include studying the doctrine of temples (or the doctrines taught in the temple) during your personal scripture study. Your temple experience doesn't only have to happen in the temple.

3. Physically Prepare

Again, different for everybody. For me, because I'm spoiled, I don't have to plan really far in advance so I can go to the temple because its so close! For you, it may be more of a sacrifice. It may take finding a babysitter or sacrificing other activities.

For me, physically preparing means getting enough sleep the night before so I'll be able to stay awake at the temple and soak in all that's available! Whatever you need to do, do it!

4. Invite Others

 Bring people with you! This will not only ensure that you go but you'll be blessing others!

Great blessings can be had as we attend the temple! I KNOW that to be true!

See also President Monson's April 2011 conference talk on temples:

http://lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/the-holy-temple-a-beacon-to-the-world?lang=eng

Welcome Home

This will show the surprise visit of a father to his son after coming home from active duty in the military. If you are a sensitive person, I suggest grabbing a tissue.

This video afforded me the wonderful opportunity to ponder on the reunion we will one day have with our Father in Heaven. What a short clip of pure happiness :)

Future Blogs

Blogs to Come:

"When you find your best friend, marry her!"

A few of my favorite things

Lessons Learned from Marathon Training

Learning about yourself through prayer

The Law of Chastity - A Principle of Becoming

The Value of Clean Language

...

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